A colleague has been arguing with a friend and I about how our mothers suffered and how mothers of today have it easy.
My question to us all is “Do we have it easy?”
We still wake up early in the morning to get everyone ready and on their way to school and work.
We sit in the offices with the same fathers. WE contribute as much as they do for the upkeep of the home. We get home and make sure there is food to eat.
During our mothers’ time, most homes either had a househelp or a relative living with them at home to help out with the chores.
Lately no one wants his or her child to live with another person and we learnt lessons from our mothers about househelps. No one wants to risk going for one nowadays.
Secondly our parents used to live in a communal way, where other kids played with their kids and this gave mothers ample time to concentrate on their house chores.
Nowadays everyone stays in his or her home(flat), we are even scared to allow our kids go out to play with the number of posts we see on daily basis about kids gone missing. A mother therefore has to juggle her house chores with caring for her child. No wonder most parents are now only having 2 kids.
We may have gadgets like the washing machine, which are helping to make life a bit easier on one hand, however we also face challenges of our own. Even our mothers agree that raising a child in these times are harder on new mothers.
I am always tired on Mondays simply because of the chores I take care of on weekends. The hours we spend in traffic alone on weekdays communing to work makes it impossible for us to handle any chore on weekdays.
We get home very late and try to get the kids to bed and wake up early rushing to get to work. The weekends are supposed to be spent with our families, however we end up cooking and cleaning missing out on quality family time.
So when I hear men say that our mothers really had it tough, I agree but mothers of today equally have our fair share of challenges which are in many ways different from what our mothers experienced but still challenges nonetheless.